The Valued Self
For Therapists and Healers Ready to Move Out of Self-Sacrifice Mode and Step into Self-Honoring.
Valued Self Intensives
Learn to value yourself outside of your role of holder
Personalized 1:1 Support for Healers and Therapists Ready for real change. The Valued Self is designed for professionals who want to go deeper than trainings and videos and are seeking individualized guidance to understand how their life experiences have shaped their Relational Boundary System.
This offering supports you in identifying, understanding, and implementing meaningful change across both your personal and professional life.
Move from over-extended to fully aligned.
You center everyone else-- clients, friends, colleagues, loved ones.
But who centers you?
The Valued Self
From Over-Extended to Fully Aligned
Your Personalized Plan to Self-Sacredness and Self Honoring:
Two Personalized 2-hour Intensive Sessions
Individualized guidance and relational exploration tailored to you.
Session 1: Guided Personal Insight
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Explore how your personal experiences have shaped your relational patterns
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Identify areas where over-functioning, self-erasure, or over-responsibility appear
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Gain clarity on what feels stuck or unsafe in relationships, work, or professional contexts
Session 2: Audit and Implementation Guidance
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Review how old relational patterns impact relationships, clinical work, and business
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Receive tailored strategies for integrating a new, values-based relational boundary system
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Create a practical plan to apply insights and strengthen your boundaries
Between-Session Support
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Optional email or text check-ins for troubleshooting challenges while implementing your new Relational Boundary System
Access to The Valued Holder Training Series and Workbook
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Reinforce insights from your intensives
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Apply structured exercises and tools to deepen your learning
The Power of Personalized Guidance
Honoring yourself begins with creating spaces that are just for you.
Through this work, you will have the opportunity to:
Gain deep, individualized insight into your relational patterns and personal history
Practical strategies for implementing changes in real-life situations
Access Ongoing support as you practice working from your new Relational Boundary System and reclaim your energy, presence, and ability to exist fully in your relationships and business
Strengthen your professional identity and personal resilience
These consultation sessions are not a replacement for therapy, clinical consultation or supervision.
This is a self-directed professional development experience designed to deepen awareness, invite integration, and prepare you for more personalized boundary work.
Meet Your Valued Self Guide
A Guide Who’s Been There
Hello, I’m Dr. Rebecca Gras, a licensed psychologist, clinical supervisor, and business owner with nearly 20 years of experience. I’m also a Boundary Bender in Recovery.
Holding Everyone by Myself
For years, I held space for everyone else, clients, colleagues, friends, and loved ones, by myself, while my own needs quietly disappeared. Doing it alone felt like the safe choice. I could control the situation, keep others supported, and avoid conflict or disappointment. I over-functioned in my relationships, disappeared in friendships, and built my business around catering to others’ emotional needs, avoiding discomfort, and not letting anyone down. My energy was drained, and my boundaries were blurred.
The Wake-Up Call
In 2022, a personal health crisis created a major shake-up. I was pushed to confront these patterns. When my ability to hold was limited, relying on care and love from others was not optional, it was necessary. That’s when I realized that my over-functioning and my identity as a holder had never truly allowed anyone to hold me, or love me fully in my raw, vulnerable state.
Rebuilding as Your Valued Self
Through this personal transformation, I developed The Valued Self offering to guide other healers and therapists. I help you explore how your personal experiences shaped your Relational Boundary System, audit how it impacts your relationships and business, and provide personalized strategies to implement sustainable change. This program is designed for those who want deep, individualized support and guidance beyond self-paced training.
Guiding Others Toward Self-Honoring Boundaries
I combine my lived experience with nearly two decades of clinical expertise, supervisory insight, and business strategy to help you:
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Reclaim your energy and professional presence
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Set boundaries that honor your value without self-abandonment
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Understand and shift patterns that limit your relationships and business
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Integrate your new relational boundary system in practical, real-world ways
Step Into Your Valued Self
In The Valued Self intensives, you’ll work directly with me in two 2-hour 1:1 sessions, with optional between-session support and full access to The Valued Holder training series and workbook. This is for the healer or therapist ready to claim their space, honor their needs, and implement sustainable boundaries while holding others with care and integrity.
What it's like work with Dr. Gras
What stood out most to me was how attuned [Rebecca} was to my own emotional experience in supervision. I’ve never had a supervisor so aware of and responsive to my internal reactions, and she always approached these moments with curiosity and unconditional positive regard.
Through her supervision style, she models what a therapeutic relationship should feel like: safe, compassionate, and collaborative. She encouraged me to take risks and try new approaches as a clinician, and I often found myself furiously writing down her insights and advice.
She is not only a very skilled therapist but also an inspiring supervisor and person. Her presence, care, and nonjudgmental stance made me feel supported and valued. She embodies the qualities of a clinician who genuinely cares for both her patients and her supervisees, and I feel grateful to have learned from her.
Laetitia Lemoine, M.P.H., M.S.
Clinical Psychology Doctoral Candidate