When we bend our boundaries, we blur the line between what is ours and what belongs to others.
Therapists are chronic boundary benders.
How does boundary bending show up in your therapy practice?
Frequently Guilty
I feel bad when I ask for no-show and late cancelation fees because I don't want my patients to feel inconvenienced or upset with me. I also struggle with guilt when I think about raising my rates.
Committed Embodied Feeler
When a patient is in deep pain, I feel that pain in my body and it stays with me well beyond the session.
Persistent Over-Rider of Self
I see patients on days when I feel sick or run-down because the thought of canceling means sitting with my patients' potential feelings of disappointment or abandonment.
Faithfully Loyal
I don't feel I have the right to end a relationship with a patient even if staying in the relationship has a negative effect on my energy and well-being. The last thing I want is for someone I care about to feel abandoned by me.
Habitually Hyper- Responsible
I sometimes let sessions run past their end time because I consider how my patient might feel if I end while they still need more support and holding.
Unending Availability
I answer texts and calls outside of my designated work hours because it hurts me when my patients feel unattended to or ignored.
What has been the cost of your boundary bending?
Do you feel drained of energy? Chronically tired and stressed? Do you feel like you are heading toward burnout?
Does your business feel financially sustainable? Are many of your patients carrying outstanding balances? Do you feel hesitant when raising rates?
Do you feel a sense of emptiness and struggle to know who you are outside of being a helper and giver?
I get it, & I can help you learn to un-blur the lines and find your self.
Hello! I am Dr. Rebecca Gras a psychologist with 18 years of clinical experience and a boundary bender in recovery. I'm here to help you shift your boundary framework so you too can experience growth!
More sustainable energy
Increase your business revenue
Healthier, more authentic relationships
