The Valued Holder
Develop a New Relational Boundary System
Learn to hold your value, not just the needs, emotions, and expectations of others.
A six-part self guided video professional training series with accompanying digital Reflection Workbook using the proprietary boundary framework of Dr. Rebecca Gras.
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Most boundary trainings give you scripts for saying no.
In this six-part video training with an accompanying digital workbook, Dr. Rebecca Gras, psychologist, clinical supervisor, business consult, and Boundary Bender in Recovery, shows you why your internal relational system learned that saying no felt unsafe in the first place, and how that learning continues to shape your clinical decisions, availability, and earning potential.This training is not simply about changing your language.
It is about updating the internal relational framework that determines when you override yourself, when you overextend, and when holding others becomes your primary source of worth.
About the FrameworkDeveloped over years of clinical practice, supervision, and consultation, Dr. Gras’s boundary framework integrates:
Relational psychologyTrauma-informed systems thinking
Practice sustainability
It is designed specifically for therapists who already understand boundaries intellectually, and want to understand why those boundaries collapse under relational pressure.
What Therapists Are Saying About Working with Dr. Gras
“A truly transformative experience"
”"Working with Rebecca helped me build stronger clinical skills and a solid sense of my professional identity. Over time, I became more confident in my judgment, more trusting of my intuition, and more comfortable navigating the uncertainty of therapeutic work."
— Morgan Endlein, M.S., Clinical Psychology Doctoral Candidate
“Safe, challenging, and growth-oriented”"
"Supervision with Rebecca was unlike any I had before. She focused on getting to know me as a person first and a clinician second, creating a safe environment to grow personally and professionally."
— Jasmine Raysor, M.S., M.A., Clinical Psychology Doctoral Candidate
“Attuned, authentic, and transformative”
"Rebecca was deeply attuned to my emotional experience. She held space for my growth and discomfort, modeling authenticity and emotional insight that made the experience truly transformative."
— Laetitia Lemoine, M.P.H., M.S.S
“Safe space to grow and expand”
“Rebecca’s ability to hold my experiences gently and compassionately… helped me do the same with my patients and with myself… She provided a space that felt genuine, honest, and nonjudgmental… I would not be the clinician I am today without her.”
- Gisele Schemankewitz, M.S., Clinical Psychology Doctoral Candidate
For the healer who was never taught that they are worthy of taking up space, having needs, and being protected.
The Valued Holder
Learn who you are outside of how much you hold
6-Part Video Training Series & Digital Workbook
Gain insight into the origins of your Relational Boundary System, including exploration related to the values and practices in your family of origin, and cultural/ community spaces.
Learn about common challenges unique to therapists and healers that impact our abilities to hold and maintain healthy boundaries in our clinical, personal, and business relationships. The very mechanisms that pre-dispose us to bend our boundaries,
Engage in supported Energy Audit to see where your Boundaries in business may be causing energy leakage.
Develop a NEW Relational Boundary System that is grounded in New Chosen Values rather than based in reactive survival based ones.
With the support of Dr. Gras, learn to work through some common challenges that may present when practicing from your NEW Relational Boundary System.
The Digital Workbook is filled with thought provoking questions and prompts allowing you to personalize the work and engage at a deeper level. It is a space where you can integrate the teachings and consider how to make some serious changes to your Relational Boundary System.
Meet Your Valued Holder Guide
Hello, I am Dr. Rebecca Gras a licensed psychologist, clinical supervisor, and business owner with nearly 20 years of experience. I am also a Boundary Bender in recovery.
For years, I held space for everyone else -clients, colleagues, friends-while my own needs quietly disappeared. I over-functioned in my relationships, disappeared in friendships, and built my business around everyone else’s priorities, leaving my energy drained and my boundaries blurred.
In 2022, a personal health crisis forced me to confront these patterns. During the nightly care of a severe hand injury, I realized I had never truly allowed anyone to love me in my raw, vulnerable state.
This experience taught me how to receive care while still giving it and how to build a values-based Relational Boundary System that transformed my energy, my relationships, and my professional life.
Now, I combine my lived experience with nearly two decades of clinical expertise, supervisory insight, and real-world business strategy to guide therapists in reclaiming their energy, setting sustainable boundaries, and creating a professional and personal life that honors both their clients and themselves.
In The Valued Holder video series and accompanying Workbook, I bring this transformation directly to you, helping you hold others without losing yourself.
What This Training Does — and Does Not — Do
This training will help you:
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Identify the relational patterns that drive over-functioning
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Understand how safety, loyalty, and value became linked
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Build an internal boundary system that does not rely on guilt or depletion
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Practice holding your value alongside your care for others
This training does not replace therapy, supervision, or consultation.
It is a self-directed professional development experience intended to deepen awareness and prepare you for more integrated boundary work.
Therapist—ultimate holder, over-giver, deeply attuned.
Who holds you?
About the Framework
Developed over years of clinical practice, supervision, and consultation, Dr. Gras’s boundary framework integrates:
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Relational psychology
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Trauma-informed systems thinking
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Practice sustainability