The Valued Holder
For Therapists and Healers Ready to Step into Self Honoring and Out of Self-Erasure
Develop a New Relational Boundary System
Learn to hold your value, not just the needs, emotions, and expectations of others.
A six-part self guided video professional training series with accompanying digital Reflection Workbook for Therapists and Healers ready to step into a practice of Self-Honoring and Self-Sacredness.
For the healer who was never taught that they are worthy of taking up space, having needs, and being protected.
Beyond Scripts: Transforming Your Internal Boundary System
Most boundary trainings give you scripts for saying no.
This training goes deeper.
Why This Training Is Different
In this six-part video series with a digital workbook, Dr. Rebecca Gras, psychologist, clinical supervisor, business consultant, and Boundary Bender in Recovery, helps you see why saying no has felt unsafe.
You’ll discover how these patterns continue to shape your:
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Clinical decisions
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Time, Emotional, and Energetic Availability
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Earning potential
Not Just Language
This is not about simply changing your words.
It is about updating your internal relational framework so you can notice:
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When you override yourself
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When you overextend
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When holding others becomes your main source of worth and value
The Framework
Developed over years of practice, supervision, and consultation, Dr. Gras’s framework integrates:
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Relational psychology
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Trauma-informed systems thinking
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Practice and Business sustainability
It is designed for therapists who already understand boundaries intellectually but want to know:
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Why boundaries collapse under relational pressure
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How to prevent it
What it's like work with Dr. Gras
[Rebecca’s] grounded, warm, and attuned presence allowed me to take emotional risks in supervision, which was essential to my development. I felt safe enough to be vulnerable about my insecurities, uncertainties, and even mistakes, knowing they would be met with curiosity rather than criticism. That sense of safety enabled me to explore deeper layers of my clinical work, highlighting relational dynamics with clients.
Rebecca modeled what it means to stay present, reflective, and compassionate — qualities I increasingly learned to bring into my own therapeutic practice. Rebecca’s thoughtful feedback and skillful questioning helped me build not only stronger clinical skills but also a more solid sense of my professional identity. Over time, I found myself becoming more confident in my clinical judgment, more trusting of my intuition, and more comfortable navigating the uncertainty that comes with therapeutic work.
Her supervision was not just about refining technique — it was about supporting me in becoming the kind of psychologist I aspire to be. I’m incredibly grateful for the depth, care, and insight she brought into our supervision.
Morgan Endlein, M.S.
Clinical Psychology Doctoral Candidate
Therapist: ultimate holder, over-giver, deeply attuned.
Who holds you?
The Valued Holder
Learn who you are outside of how much you hold
6-Part Video Training Series & Digital Workbook
Gain insight into the origins of your Relational Boundary System, including exploration related to the values and practices in your family of origin, and cultural/ community spaces.
Learn about common challenges unique to therapists and healers that impact our abilities to hold and maintain healthy boundaries in our clinical, personal, and business relationships. The very mechanisms that pre-dispose us to bend our boundaries,
Engage in supported Energy Audit to see where your Boundaries in business may be causing energy leakage.
Develop a NEW Relational Boundary System that is grounded in New Chosen Values rather than based in reactive survival based ones.
With the support of Dr. Gras, learn to work through some common challenges that may present when practicing from your NEW Relational Boundary System.
The Digital Workbook is filled with thought provoking questions and prompts allowing you to personalize the work and engage at a deeper level. It is a space where you can integrate the teachings and consider how to make some serious changes to your Relational Boundary System.
Meet Your Valued Holder Guide
A Guide Who’s Been There
Hello, I’m Dr. Rebecca Gras, a licensed psychologist, clinical supervisor, and business owner with nearly 20 years of experience. I’m also a Boundary Bender in Recovery.
Holding Everyone by Myself
For years, I held space for everyone else, clients, colleagues, friends, and loved ones, by myself, while my own needs quietly disappeared. Doing it alone felt like the safe choice. I could control the situation, keep others supported, and avoid conflict or disappointment. I over-functioned in my relationships, disappeared in friendships, and built my business around catering to others’ emotional needs, avoiding discomfort, and not letting anyone down. It gave me a sense of reliability and purpose, but my energy was drained, and my boundaries were blurred.
The Wake-Up Call
In 2022, a personal health crisis created a major shake-up. I was pushed to confront these patterns. When my ability to hold was limited, relying on care and love from others was not optional, it was necessary. That’s when I realized that my over-functioning and my identity as a holder had never truly allowed anyone to hold me, or love me fully in my raw, vulnerable state.
Strengthening Your Boundaries, Honoring Your Value
This shake-up invited me to make major changes to my Relational Boundary System. From my own experience, I rebuilt my boundaries from the inside out. I learned that self-erasure was unsustainable and was costing me my energy and emotional capacity. Out of this transformation, I created The Valued Holder program to guide others in building a values-based Relational Boundary System that transforms energy, relationships, and professional life. It allows you to co-exist fully in your relationships without losing yourself and to hold others from a place of grounded self-respect.
Guiding Others Toward Self-Honoring Boundaries
Now, I combine my lived experience with nearly two decades of clinical expertise, supervisory insight, and real-world business strategy to guide therapists and healers in:
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Reclaiming their energy
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Setting boundaries that conserve and protect self
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Honoring needs without self-abandonment
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Creating sustainable relational and professional life rhythms
Cultivate a Self-Honoring Relational System
In The Valued Holder video series and accompanying workbook, I bring this transformation directly to you, helping you build an internal relational system that lets you hold others without losing yourself and make choices from grounded connection rather than guilt or over-responsibility.
How This Training Welcomes Change
This training opens space for insight, choice, and relational reorganization, letting change happen from a place of alignment.
Through this work, you will have the opportunity to:
Gain insight into your relational patterns that lead to over-functioning, hyper-attunement, and chronic responsibility for others
Explore how safety, loyalty, and worth became intertwined in your relational system
Begin developing an internal boundary structure that supports your energy and value without depletion or self-erasure
Practice holding care for others alongside a grounded sense of your own worth and holding of self-needs
This training is not a replacement for therapy, clinical supervision, or consultation.
It is a self-directed professional development experience designed to deepen awareness, invite integration, and prepare you for more personalized boundary work.
For therapists and healers ready for embodied self-honoring and courageous implementation, The Valued Warrior offers a deeper transformational container with group support and accountability to sustain meaningful change.
For those seeking personalized refinement and integration, The Valued Self Intensives provide focused 1:1 guidance to apply this work in your relationships and business.